Apparently I was belatedly bitten by the Blogger bug--I wrote (and published, I think) a post earlier this week, but I haven't been paying that much attention to the front page when I moderate comments. Then, when I published the latest post on creepsters, I noticed my PDA post was still in the drafts box. Of course I click it and the contents are gone. Grr...
It was a fairly long post, and now I have to muster up the energy to a) remember what I wrote and b) rewrite it. We'll see how that goes.
ETA: I just checked my email, and it did publish, because I received 2 comments on it.
For the record, the post was about how Z, as the king of PDA, tends to get super-huggy/kissy whenever he thinks some guy is trying to hit on me. We have different definitions of flirting, and I tease him sometimes about going overboard, but generally I think it's cute that he's so eager to "claim" me in public. I find it interesting that he's the claiming one, however, since I feel like women who talk to him are way more forward than guys who talk to me. In my case, they are usually just chatting--most guys meet me in front of Z, so it's not like they can blatantly hit on me without him seeing--but in his case girls will see me next to him and keep on oogling, or they'll make an excuse to walk past him a bunch of times and say something. He tends to attract really forward (sometimes desperate) women, so it doesn't really faze me, but I still laugh at the irony.
The questions I post to you (commenters) are:
1) Do you (or your partner) use PDA as a way of "marking your territory"?
2)What do you consider to be the boundaries of flirting vs. friendly conversation (either on your part or on the part of people who approach you)?
3) Why are really forward women attracted to nerdy guys? (Just kidding, that's a question for another post. :-P)
OK, I pretty much summed it up. I feel better now.
4 comments:
I could have answered the last one!
Number 2 depends, and Number 1 = no. But maybe I should, in the future. ;)
Alee,
LOL,Z definitely keeps his territory...well-marked. ;-)
1) Do you (or your partner) use PDA as a way of "marking your territory"?
Hmmm... Not really. I think we both assume nobody's interested in us (and usually isn't). But my husband can get angry if he thinks a guy is chatting me up, which is never true. And I can get jealous if I think the girls flirt with him and he doesn't tell them to "sod off". But I don't hug and kiss him so others can get the idea that he's taken.
2)What do you consider to be the boundaries of flirting vs. friendly conversation (either on your part or on the part of people who approach you)?
Well, the boundary is what's in your mind. If you're not interested, you're not interested, and you'll act accordingly. The problem is with the other people. Women here, for example, likes to be liked, so they'll "flirt" even with men they're not interested in, even with the men they know are taken. I don't like it.
3) Why are really forward women attracted to nerdy guys? (Just kidding, that's a question for another post. :-P)
I don't know. I thought all women liked nerdy guys. Forward ones are just more likely to express that.
Um I think it's because Nerdy guys can be submissive? Or are seen as such.
In my case, I'm not dominating but nerdy guys tends to be attracted to me because they think I am. And I don't like submissive men.
I don't flirt with them though. I just like talking about nerdy topics, with anyone.
;)
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