Eek! I'm Getting Married Next Month!


Friday, February 07, 2014

This is what popped up (and was actually relevant) when I Googled "interracial getting married clipart"

And I have to be honest...I need to get it together. I've put so much care and detail into the big stuff (venue, invitations, logistics for all of our out-of-town guests), but I'm running out of steam and I still need to figure out:
  • How I'm going to wear my hair (and who's styling it)
  • Makeup 
  • Shoes (I admit I tried on this one, but the original ones I ordered looked like Miz Pearl's Sunday Best)
  • A sash for my dress
I realize that at this point, if I don't get it together, the wedding will look awesome, but I'll be a hot mess. I need a (verbal) kick in the pants!

In other (good news), I went to my final fitting and brought home my dress today. It's beautiful, and the fit has assuaged my fear/aversion to strapless dresses. Now I need to 1) buy some shoes and 2) practice walking so I don't trip down the aisle.

Does anyone have any advice for getting my sh*t (especially this hair/makeup thing--I'm being really stubborn and wanting to do it myself, but I don't think that's going to fly) together? Please share!

Becoming Suzy Homemaker (or Crafty Polly)


Sunday, December 15, 2013

Since getting engaged, I have really gotten into crafting. Well, I think it's partly that and partly the fact that crafting is an inexpensive at-home activity that doesn't involve just sitting on the couch. So far, I've made the following wedding-related stuff:
  • Stationery (save the dates, invitations, response cards, RSVPs, etc.)
  • Serving trays for our DIY "cocktail" hour
  • Envelope liners for the invitations
  • Favor boxes
And I'm still looking into making decorations, a photo booth and these cake stands for our cocktail hour snacks.

While I am trying to be careful to avoid the dangers of DIY (post coming soon!), I just get so much satisfaction from being able to say "I made it myself" when I show people a project. And now that the holiday season is upon us, I'm feeling a desire to go "100% homegrown" for future holidays, because the joy of gift-giving is really losing it's luster (another post coming soon).

Do you craft (or bake, or knit, or sew)? Online, I mostly stumble upon crafting blogs run by stay-at-home-moms or women planning their weddings, but there has to be a subset of "craft because we're too cheap frugal to buy nice things" people, right? Help me find them (and come up with some good gifts for next year, because I am so over malls). :-)

Climbing Back Onto the Face of the Earth...


Sunday, November 24, 2013

Y'all, the last time I posted here was 2 years and 21 days ago. Which is crazy, especially since I've had so much to say since then! But 1) being a teacher is no joke 2) being a teacher working for an organization that is complicit in the racist educational system and doing nothing to change that is no joke and 3) I was enjoying being anonymous on the Internet for a good long while.

But I've missed you people. And I've missed your blogs. And I've missed being able to comment in the middle of the day, which teachers don't do because we're always on. But I promise I've still been creeping lurking on your blogs, biting my tongue because now I always get to Internet conversations too late, after all of the good points have been made and everyone's gone home. Such is life on the West Coast.

In other (not surprising to anyone reading this) news, Z and I are getting hitched! We actually got engaged in May, and we're getting married next spring. It's going to be a small wedding and we have student loans to pay, so I've been DIYing the shit out of this wedding. The best part is that I'm actually kind of good at it, and I'm now BFFs with Michaels (and their 15% teacher discount, holla) and making all of these cool crafts. I even started a craft blog (still on the fence about whether I should link to it, since it's not personally identifying) so I have a place to keep track of all of the projects.

And what about you? (The personal you. I'm sure only one person, if that, still reads this blog.) What have I missed during my two years off the grid? Should I come back to this blog? Can we revive our Internet friendship? (I have a--rarely used--Twitter now!) Do you watch Scandal? Fill me in!
Proof that we still exist. We took this blurry selfie last weekend.

I Blogged!


Wednesday, November 02, 2011

But not here. :-) Check out my guest post over at Ankhesen's blog:

If you're wondering why I don't blog, it's not because I don't have anything to say (well, right now I don't because I lost my voice, but that's another story). My best stories come from work, but I'm hesitant to put them in the blogosphere. I'm going to try to put up some relationship posts before the end of the month, provided that I feel better. I'm still lurking around the Internet in the meantime. :-)

Can You Ever Really "Not Mean It"?


Sunday, September 04, 2011

I always (jokingly) tease Z of attracting weird "friends", especially female ones. He's very much the type to always offer "a shoulder to lean on", and in the past some of his friends treated him as the right guy to hold down the Friend Zone/play pseudo-boyfriend when they were feeling lonely. Of course anyone who would use you like that isn't really a friend, but I digress.

I've mentioned this before, but when we first got together, I told him not to be surprised by some of these friends' words and actions going forward and once again I was right my suspicions proved correct. This time, a friend attempted to impress him by using an offensive word for gay people, Z and his best friend called her out on it, she got defensive, end scene. And did I mentioned this all happened on Facebook? (Gotta love the public smackdown.)

Besides the fact that trying to fit a slur for gay people into the word "professional" is a) stupid and b) makes no sense, I was a bit surprised that said friend tried to go with the "I didn't mean it" (no really, this fool said, "I was trying to mix the words 'antagonistic' and professional') excuse. Not because I don't expect people to get defensive when they get called out on stuff, but because it was obvious to anyone reading that she was trying to impress Z with her wit, and generally when you do something that the person you like doesn't agree with, you fall all over yourself apologizing to get back in their good graces.

Let the record show that saying "I didn't mean it" when you say something offensive makes you look both weak and foolish. Weak because you won't stand by what you said (so why did you say it?) and foolish because 9 times out of 10, the person speaking had enough metalinguistic knowledge to know the connotations of the word she's using. There's few things people can do to me that will get them cut off for the long-term, but unapologetically acting an ass definitely counts.

What say you, readers? Does it really matter if you meant it when you hurt someone's feelings? Have you ever had someone lash out at you when his/her attempt to impress you backfired? And does it make you feel weird when someone says something offensive when the implication is that you would laugh/appreciate what he said? 

**On a lighter note, the first week of school is done, and no school tomorrow for Labor Day (yay!). One thing I love about my kids is that they are so excited about learning--last week I said, "We're going to work on phonics" and they all went, "Yes!". :-)

First Day of School


Monday, August 29, 2011

Surprisingly, the classroom still looked somewhat like this at the end of the day! It's me versus 25 2nd graders, and on a scale of 1-10, I rated today a 5. I'm very excited though; I know my class is going to be awesome!

Funny story: I am a novelty at school because the kids don't understand how a person not of Spanish-speaking descent ended up teaching a bilingual class. Some of the parents were like to their kids, "Well, I guess they got rid of the bilingual class and you'll be learning a lot more English." Then I opened my mouth and the kids were like, "Whew!" They also loved my "artifact bag" activity--basically you put 4 things that are important to you in the bag and then share them with the class. I can't wait to see what they bring (or not...) :-)

Book Review at Socialite Dreams


Thursday, August 25, 2011

My review of "When I Get Where I'm Going" is being featured as part of Socialite Dreams' "Beauty AND Brains" series. If you are looking for a good end-of-summer read, check it out. :-)